*Updated to include 2019 and 2020 family events*
Westminster Abbey is without doubt a London icon – an architectural marvel, a working church, the setting of countless royal occasions, a site of ceremony, royal burial and countless memorials, and one of London’s most popular visitor attractions.
But is it a place to visit with young children – born since the last royal wedding, who haven’t heard of a single person buried there, and have no religious beliefs? (Unless you count the cult of Peppa Pig).
The answer – a resounding yes! I took my family – including a 2 and 4 year old – to their recent family day and we had a very special day out. Having enjoyed it so much, I thought I’d give my top tips for families visiting Westminster Abbey, especially for those with young kids:
*Confirmed family events for 2019-20. Last updated June 2019*
30 July- 22 August 2019
FREE events with activities on the themes of Queen Victoria, Who’s Who, Makers & Materials and Knight School.
Tuesdays and Thursdays
Interactive family sessions in College Garden
Themed Family Tours at 11.00 and 13.00 (5+)
Teen Tours at 13.00 (13+)
Family Days (aimed at ages 13+)
- Pilgrimage Day – 19 October 2019
- Abbey Birthday – 23 October 2019
- Christmas Carol Singalong – 14 December 2019
- A Commonwealth Celebration – 21 February 2020
- Royal Oak Day – 29 May 2020
Half Term Holidays
14-17 April 2020
FREE family days in College Garden
- Knights and Dragons – 31 July and 3 August 2020
- Glorious Gardens – 14 and 17 August 2020
FREE interactive family tours
Themed Family Tours at 11.00 and 13.00 (5+)
Teen Tours at 13.00 (13+)
2. Grab a family trail
The new family trail is available every day, not just on family days. Beautifully illustrated by Ailsa Burrows, it features two best friends on a day out at the Abbey with their families, and the wonderfully drawn Livingstone the lion (named by public vote). The trail uses open questioning to help families and children explore the Abbey, and think about what what they are seeing. However, the clear photographs and story type approach to the trail mean you can read it anywhere – Museum Boy and I really enjoyed reading it together on the tube on the way home.
This February half term the Abbey ran a Kids go Free offer. Rather fantastically it allowed up to three children per paying adult – meaning it only cost £20 for a solo parent to bring a brood of three! The family ticket was also reduced in price. The offer doesn’t run every school holiday, although it was available in half term last February too.
4. Try their free half term activities
The Westminster Abbey Education team run a number of free family events every school holiday. A sneaky tip is if you book for a free tour in the summer they always go inside the Abbey – albeit for varying lengths of time. I’m sure this sneaky peek will definitely get you wanting to come back for more!
If your kid has you up at 630 without fail EVERY DAY (Museum Toddler, I’m looking at you) this is the perfect time of your life to make an early morning visit to Westminster Abbey. Set up for Evensong starts quite early (2pm on a Saturday in Winter), restricting access to some parts of the Abbey. We arrived at 1130 after Museum Boy’s swimming lesson, so we didn’t get as much time as we would like to see everything and do the requisite feeding of perpetually hungry children before Evensong set up. Next time we’ll hopefully be able to come a lot earlier *prays Museum Boy either moves up or down a level at swimming*.
6. Rein in the youngest
At least in the chapel parts of the abbey, if your youngest is a bolter then I would definitely recommend having some form of reins on them. Unless you want them to be inside Oliver Cromwell’s tomb, lifting the tapestry and shouting ‘Look mummy!’ at you in front of dozens of laughing tourists *hollow laugh at idea rope barriers mean anything to a 2 year old*. In the cloisters there is a lot more space for them to tear around without risk of embarrassment.
7. Go on an animal hunt
Westminster Abbey is practically a stone zoo, there’s so many animals dotted throughout. I could swear we saw a porcupine – I know we definitely found lots of lions!
8. Eye spy colours
Museum Toddler has just mastered her colours, we we had great fun searching the Abbey for them together. The multi coloured flags in the Henry VII chapel were a particularly fruitful find!
With all these highly carved tombs and memorials, there’s lots of figures, in all sorts of positions. Get your children to spot and copy them. Museum Toddler and I copied the kneeling figures around the Margaret Douglas tomb, which you can just see in the bottom right of the photo below. I’ll admit it was a little hard on the knees on the stone floor – Museum Toddler was quick to point to the cushions they were kneeling on and ask ‘what’s that?’ Too. Smart.
One of the best parts of our day was the special performance of the choir. We got the rare treat of sitting in the choir benches with the red lights, whilst the choir sang to us from the top of the quire arch, complete with organ playing. It was really was a special moment to hear it live within such an awe-inspiring space.
We also had a q and a session with four of the choristers. Museum Boy, who’s a bit obsessed with homelessness, asked if they had homes. I was fascinated to find out that the choir boys live and go to school at the Abbey. They practice singing for an hour in the morning, half an hour in the afternoon, and then every Evensong. All visitors are welcome to listen to Evensong as part of their visit.
Sidenote: if you put your toddler in a red dress, they’ll look like a tiny runaway choir boy. Which is always fun.
11. Light a candle
The most touching moment in our visit was when Museum Boy asked about the many tea lights lit. When I explained they were to remember someone, he asked to light one for Granddad M, who very sadly passed away last year. Cue scrabbling around for some coins for the donation box (er, do you take contactless?). It was very moving to take part in this little ritual, with Museum Boy carefully lighting his own candle – perhaps a little too eagerly. The presence of lit candles in this part of the Abbey is something to bear in mind with younger children, especially if they are of the tearaway/pyromaniac variety.
Something I very rarely advise as a family of five! We ended up having an impromptu lunch with the lovely Tincture of Museum and her family as we bumped into each other on the stairs waiting for the Cellarium Restaurant. The food was very good quality – my sea bass was incredibly fresh and tasty, my partner’s lamb was beautifully cooked with the right amount of pink. I was too hungry/busy with kids/busy chatting to take many photos but this is one of my partner’s delicious grilled artichoke starter which is on the set lunch (£17 for 2 courses/ £20 for 3).
In February half term the Abbey ran a ‘Kids Eat Free’ offer, with one free children’s meal for each adult main meal bought. Our kids tucked into a good quality sausage and home made fries. We dined upstairs in the light and spacious terrace, whilst downstairs the ancient cellars are more atmospheric. It is not a quick option – my partner rather accurately described it as ‘an Italian experience’, which was true right down to the waiter kissing Museum Toddler, and saying ‘Ciao, bella!’ to her. But it did feel like we managed to combine a good meal out, adult conversation and a table full of kids, which is a rarity! It was definitely a highlight and we plan to eat there again. Try and have lunch near the end of your visit though so you don’t miss too much before Evensong sets up.
13. Exit via the gift shop
Yep, for once it’s definitely worth leaving via the gift shop as everyone who has done the trail gets a gift – my kids were delighted to have their very own Livingstone the lion badge to take home.
14. Keep coming back!
We all really enjoyed our visit to Westminster Abbey – Museum Boy said ‘of course’ he’d like to go again. I can only imagine future visits will become even more rewarding as they learn about British history, and the kings, queens, poets and people who are commemorated in Westminster Abbey. And at some point in their lives, watch the spectacle of a new monarch being crowned, sat in the very Coronation chair we bid farewell to on our way out.
Disclosure: I was given free entry and lunch at the Cellarium in return for an honest review.
This is somewhere I’d like to visit but if I can make it work with the kids too that’s excellent. Thanks for all the advice.
You’re very welcome! I’m sure its the sort of place I would also love on my own, but given how little child free time I have outside of work, I’m so pleased it’s a good day out for families too.
Wow how stunning is Westminster Abbey? We did a similar tour at the Houses of Parliament on our last trip to London by the Abbey is definitely on my list. I love that you had a Q&A with the choir too 😀
I visited it on my first ever trip to London:) I remember how in awe I was:) #culturedkids
This is such a great thing for Westminster Abbey do have done. As you say, it’s not necessarily the first choice for a family day out, but it just takes a bit of effort to bring history to life. I think my two would enjoy it here – when we visited St Albans recently, my son said his favourite bit was ‘visiting the cathedral’. I love the way little details have been brought to life. Like you, I had no idea the choirboys actually lived there! Thanks for linking up with #CulturedKids
This is so useful – I love the Abbey but had no idea about a lot of the family-friendly aspects so had mentally parked this for when my daughter was older. She has already asked to go in when we went to Parliament square on out mini tour of London and was most aggrieved when I said no (we had left my husband in the car and much as I love it, a 15 minute visit did not seem the best plan!) #citytripping
Great post! Thanks for sharing all the family events going on too. You know, I’m ashamed to admit I’ve never been inside Westminster Abbey. My daughter has… on a school trip. I think we all need to go together and share the experience. You sound like you had a memorable time. #citytripping
What a lovely day out! I haven’t brought my son here yet – it’s great to know the Westminster Abbey offers a trail and activities for families. It must be wonderful listening to the choir – especially at Christmastime. #CultureKids
Great reading – thank you. We dont live far from the Abbey but I have been putting it off until the kids get a bit older. Absolutely taking your tips and adding the family days to the calendar. #CulturedKids
So many brilliant tips here – I had missed the Kids Go Free offer and it really is expensive for the whole family without. I definitely second the go early bit – we made this mistake last time and it was uncomfortably packed particularly in the chapels.
I would never have guessed it was so child friendly! I have visited years ago, but must go back now we have children. It’s so beautiful anyway, and that lunch!! Love the idea of the familytrail too! 🙂 #culturedkids